Why are we hearing so much about teaching coping skills lately? Why the big focus on coping? Having a growth mindset? Helping kids tackle controversy? Why do we suddenly need to teach these things? Didn't these skills just "fall into place" for past generations? Why does this generation need so much support? Coping skills are strategies that help individuals manage stress, navigate difficult emotions, and overcome challenges. Coping skills are crucial for resilience, emotional health, and overall well-being. This generation of children face unique challenges that undoubtedly have influenced their inability to develop coping skills at the same rate or pace as past generations.
Many factors contribute to the emotional struggles of this generation. Most notable is our growing dependence on technology, which has led to constant digital engagement versus organic, unscripted human conversation and problem-solving. The increased pressure felt by social media to be perfect and its impact on self-esteem, self-awareness, and identity. We could add to the list our fast-paced and structured lives that have contributed to decreased free play and critical thinking. Not to mention the heightened instructional pressure created by stressed school districts trying to address stagnant academic growth, a byproduct of a post-pandemic learning environment, which undoubtedly has left our children less equipped to handle challenges independently.
So, let's talk about our adult role on this emotional roller coaster. What role have we played? How have we contributed to a generation struggling to feel confident and capable? We undoubtedly see, understand, and empathize with their stress, but is our awareness helpful? Have we helped them or held them back? It’s emotionally and cognitively exhausting to know when and how to intervene. When do we, as parents or educators, push kids to “power through,” and when do we pull back and alleviate some of the stress? If we want children and teenagers to learn resilience, don’t we first need to help them have the courage to do hard things? To take risks or attempt complex tasks without fear from failure.
Courage is an essential trait that fuels personal growth and helps us navigate life’s challenges. It’s more than just the ability to face our fears — it’s a key driver for adopting a growth mindset. Simply put, courage is the foundation of a growth mindset. Courage enables us to take risks, learn from mistakes, and develop grit. With courage, we can continuously evolve, building the confidence to strive for personal and academic growth. Try implementing a few of these strategies to help plant seeds of courage within your child's coping toolbox.
Attitude of Gratitude
An attitude of gratitude helps teach courage by shifting focus from fear to appreciation, making challenges feel less intimidating. When we regularly acknowledge our strengths and the support around us, we become more confident in our ability to handle difficult situations.
Encourage Risk-Taking
Support your child in stepping out of their comfort zone. Praise their effort, whether trying a new activity, speaking in front of a group, or tackling a challenging school project. Focus on the process rather than the outcome—this teaches them that courage is about trying, even if they’re unsure of success.
Model Courage
Children learn by example, so be open about your experiences with fear. Share stories of when you faced something difficult and how you navigated the situation. Let them know you still get nervous and what you do to help calm your nerves or stress. Letting them witness that courage isn't the absence of fear can help your child understand that feeling uncertain is a normal response when trying new things.
Teach Problem-Solving
Lead with a question. Hold back from giving the answer, telling kids what to do, or providing advice. Ask them what they think they should do. What would they have done differently? What did they notice went well, or what needs to change? Encourage kids to think for themselves. Encourage curiosity!!! When kids know how to problem-solve, they’re more likely to feel empowered to face fears and challenges head-on.
Celebrate Small Wins
Look for progress, not perfection. Help kids know their strengths and what comes naturally to them. Recognize their courage, no matter how small. When we feel confident, we feel like taking risks. Over time, celebrating these small victories helps build confidence, resilience, and independence.
Together, these actions can help nurture a child’s inner strength, teaching them that courage is about effort, perseverance, and the willingness to face the unknown.
Jodie Maddox is a lifelong educator, certified parent coach, and author. Contact her today for a free consultation for more help with developing a growth mindset or managing any stress that accompanies parenting.
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